I wanted to let you know I read this blog, and whoa! I really resonates with it.
"When you are in a bad situation, there are two things that are true. Firstly, you think the situation is not as bad as it actually is. [yip, check!]. Secondly, you think you are coping with it way better than you really are. [Yip yip! Check too!]"
I lived this situation. And it blows me away I wasn't aware of it until a good friend of mine, pulled me aside and confronted me on the toxicity of the environment that was my workplace. That was the seed, that was all it took for me to uncover my eyes from the wool I had unconsciously pulled over my own eyes! 1.5 years later, I am still healing from my experience - which sounds very similar to yours.
I've learnt so much from my experience. I've learnt how to set healthy boundaries around my working hours, I've learnt, not to feel guilty for ending my working day after the 8 hours I am contracted to work. I have learnt what a toxic working environment looks like. I've learnt what behaviours indicate a toxic culture. And I ensure my powerful self-agency is always available should I need to eject myself. Life is way too short to not declare "Up with this! I will not put!". Love your work, love pirates, keep going!
Thanks for letting me know that it resonated with you. I wish it didn't but it does confirm to me that I'm talking about the right things.
It's really hard to have that awareness when you're in it, you were lucky to have a good friend who could see it. I didn't understand the system and the psychosocial dynamics I was in and that's a dangerous place to be in. Glad to hear you are healing (it does take time) and it sounds like you have found your inner pirate!
Setting boundaries is so important and the only way to start to protect yourself agains the toxicity. A lot of effort is put into blurring them and persuading you to do more all the time. Setting and defending them is how you start your mutiny.
Humans thrive through their adaptability to varied environments, but our adaptability can blind us to toxicity too. Thanks for the article, very relatable.
Yes, our coping strategies can lead us to tolerate things for longer than is healthy for us. I often think if I had been less reasonable and more of a prima donna, I would have come through the situation unscathed because I would either have flounced out or they would have backed off. It would have been way more fun, too.
I wanted to let you know I read this blog, and whoa! I really resonates with it.
"When you are in a bad situation, there are two things that are true. Firstly, you think the situation is not as bad as it actually is. [yip, check!]. Secondly, you think you are coping with it way better than you really are. [Yip yip! Check too!]"
I lived this situation. And it blows me away I wasn't aware of it until a good friend of mine, pulled me aside and confronted me on the toxicity of the environment that was my workplace. That was the seed, that was all it took for me to uncover my eyes from the wool I had unconsciously pulled over my own eyes! 1.5 years later, I am still healing from my experience - which sounds very similar to yours.
I've learnt so much from my experience. I've learnt how to set healthy boundaries around my working hours, I've learnt, not to feel guilty for ending my working day after the 8 hours I am contracted to work. I have learnt what a toxic working environment looks like. I've learnt what behaviours indicate a toxic culture. And I ensure my powerful self-agency is always available should I need to eject myself. Life is way too short to not declare "Up with this! I will not put!". Love your work, love pirates, keep going!
Thanks for letting me know that it resonated with you. I wish it didn't but it does confirm to me that I'm talking about the right things.
It's really hard to have that awareness when you're in it, you were lucky to have a good friend who could see it. I didn't understand the system and the psychosocial dynamics I was in and that's a dangerous place to be in. Glad to hear you are healing (it does take time) and it sounds like you have found your inner pirate!
Setting boundaries is so important and the only way to start to protect yourself agains the toxicity. A lot of effort is put into blurring them and persuading you to do more all the time. Setting and defending them is how you start your mutiny.
Humans thrive through their adaptability to varied environments, but our adaptability can blind us to toxicity too. Thanks for the article, very relatable.
Yes, our coping strategies can lead us to tolerate things for longer than is healthy for us. I often think if I had been less reasonable and more of a prima donna, I would have come through the situation unscathed because I would either have flounced out or they would have backed off. It would have been way more fun, too.